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Are You A Stress Buster?

Almost all disease is created by stress and stress is produced internally--NOT externally!!!

It has been concluded that 95% of all disease is created by stress according to Dr Bruce Lipton from research that was obtained at  Stanford University and Dr Caroline Leaf claims it to be 87%. Whichever the percentage is; isn’t my issue… My issue is that...

Stress does NOT come from outside sources!!!

You read that right. Stress does not come from things like:

·        Jobs we hate and difficult, impossible to please bosses

·        Stacks of unpaid bills

·        Messy relationships

·        Pain in the neck relatives.

·        Rude drivers

·        Having nothing to wear to the wedding

·        Giving a talk at Rotary Club, etc

Stress IS created from our incorrect
beliefs and our misinterpretations!

These paradigms or beliefs that we have were programmed into our subconscious as we grew up from our parents, teachers and other people of influence. We now look at our lives through tainted glasses. Because these new circumstances are alien to the beliefs that we hold, we see our personal circumstances and the world around us, as being dangerous and threatening to our comfort zone. This stress causes the cells in our body to be forced into a stress filled "defensive mode", as opposed to a normal, healthy, "growth mode". When that continually happens - day in and day out - our bodies become so stressed, that they begin to break down, and we are no longer able to repair ourselves.

When we understand that our old paradigms are causing this stress through our thoughts, we then can stop creating the constant stress within our bodies. This allows our cells to move out of their defensive mode and into their growth mode.

When we have healthy, happy thoughts, our immune system then becomes "supercharged" and we rid ourselves of illnesses, and protect ourselves from creating new ones.

The body is the  world's most perfect healing machine, when our cells are not forced into a defensive position, brought on by stress.

Another type of stress is when you are feeling the strain of dealing with another person's stress. Just like second hand smoke, this sort off stress can affect everyone else.

Hot Points
Dr.
 Brad Gilbreath, associate professor of organizational leadership and supervision at Indiana State University-Purdue University at Fort Wayne, explains: "Other people's excessive stress or ongoing stress pollutes the environment. It erodes civility and causes anxiety. A stressed person is a loose cannon. You never know what is going to set him or her off."

In fact, this second hand stress may be more harmful to you than stress from your own making. "Generally speaking, the people most likely to cause you second hand stress are those closest to you. With firsthand stress, after all, you can act. You can confront your problems or attempt a resolution. With second hand stress, often you can't do much than stand there and take it," writes Caroline Hwang in "Is Stress Contagious?"

Stress Busters
Here are some suggestions that you can do to avoid being influenced by second hand stress.

1. Take control of your own emotions. We all think that our way of dealing with stuff is the best way, which is why we do it that way. However, resist the urge to impose your own way of dealing with things on the stressed out person. Though his or her upsets and coping mechanisms may be different than you, it is best not to attempt to make him or her see it your way. If you do, your move may be seen as an act of attempting to control which could only make things worse. Silence and sympathetic listening is sometimes the best thing for you to do. This works better than know-it-all pronouncements that could just set off or overwhelm the stressed-out individual.

2. Stand your ground. Toxic people can be like a pressure cooker and everyone is living on the edge to prevent the release valve blowing up. When you're dealing with one of these toxic “cooking” individuals, it's best to be upfront about how his or her behaviour and attitude is creating a negative atmosphere for everyone else. There's no need for the conversation to get heated. You can calmly tell him or her, "I acknowledge that you're really having a hard time. However, please don't treat us as if we are the enemy and take it out on us. We’re happy to give you the space you need to handle this."

3. Do something that is fun. It is important to have a break from your stressors if you regularly come into contact with them. Neutralize this stress by doing things that make you feel good like a walk in the park, listening to your favourite songs or watching a funny movie. Get involved in a hobby.

Success Sanity
By taking these simple steps you can minimize the impact of another persons stress on yourself and preserve your sanity. As Hwang observes, "Certainly, there's nothing wrong with trying to protect and comfort someone. But when doing so increases your primary stress load, it can jeopardize your relationship with the very person you want to help." Protect your on health by letting go of negative situations, eat well, getting plenty of sleep and exercise. Be part of the solution not part of the problem.

 

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